Anger is such a problem in our world and in our homes. I am not sure when I realized that I can't seem to control my outburst and have them on a daily basis. Maybe, it happened when I turned 40???? (LOL)
So, here is the game plan- and the only way I know I can over come negative behavior. Allow God to work it out in me and use his word as a sward. Memorizing verses is not something that comes easily to me BUT I have to keep at it.
The best way I know to do this is to plaster the scripture all over the house. I put sticky notes of the verse in all the places that I frequent. (bathroom, kitchen, car)
The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion
A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
I think it is important to evaluate why the anger is happening. I don't think anyone becomes an angry person over night. Some of us may have personalities that are bent towards anger but that is not an excuse to keep on sinning.
I am starting to go back and look at my past outbursts and then evaluate how they could have been avoided.
Here are some of what I find to be true in my life:
PROBLEM: Being tired-never taking time to rest. Therefore, anger is easier to fall into. SOLUTION: I need to direct my days so that I am not filling them to the point that I am so tired I loose my cool with the family.
PROBLEM: stress- am I allowing inside and outside stresses to direct my emotions and cause me to have a short fuse. Stress is inevetable but how I choose to deal with it is key. Am I taking on stresses that are not mine to take on. Can I look at a situation that is stresfull and see it instead as a blessing from the Lord. I have been without a car for most days lately. I can see that as a stress because I cant get to the places that I want to get to or I can look at it as a blessing- being home more has it's advantages. I spend less money and I can clean out those closets that need cleaning.
PROBLEM: the need to have things clean and orderly all the time. This is a big one for me. When I see messes that are left behind I can feel my blood preasure rising. SOLUTION: I need to learn how to lower my expectations on my home. Do I need to avoid having a once a week card game at my house if it makes me crazy all week to keep the house clean.
PROBLEM: expectations. sometimes my expectations cause me to get angry because I expect more than I should. SOLUTION:Would lowering my expectations create more peace and harmony in my home and outside of my home.
PROBLEM: Idols- have I created idols in my life that have caused me to love them more than the relationships of friend and famiy. SOLUTION: recognize what are the idols in my life and get rid of them. some of my idols: computer, stuff, time etc.......
This is not at all the end of my lists only the beginning. I think as life happens there will be more things that pop up and present themselves as issues.